10 Things I’ve Learned In My Twenties

You Are Your Own Happiness

 If you aren’t happy with yourself, then other people will not make you happy. As cheesy as it sounds, happiness comes from within. Once I started to focus on what makes me happy and surrounding myself with my own positive outlook, my world changed.

 Your Job Isn’t Your Life

 I love putting my whole self into the things that I do. That applies to the job I currently do as a cocktail waitress, alongside blogging. While I know this job isn’t what I want to do forever, it’s easy to get caught up working every day and because of it, I lack the time and effort to do what I actually enjoy doing, which is blogging. Remembering to slow down and reminding myself every day that my job isn’t my forever. Focusing on what makes me happy not only builds me up, but also keeps me mentally motivated for the future.

 Your Body Belongs To You And Only You

 This applies to literally everything. You don’t owe that guy who bought you a drink anything, you aren’t required to let your coworkers hug you, and you aren’t required to hang out with people you don’t feel comfortable around.

 It’s OK To Ask For Help

 Life is hard. No doubt about it. Sometimes life throws you a curve ball and it feels like you need to figure everything out on your own. You don’t. Lean on the people that love you. That’s what they are there for. And in time, you will do the same for them.

 It’s OK To Not Be OK

 It’s completely alright to feel sad because you are fighting with your friend or a guy stopped texting you back. You don’t have to pretend that everything is fine all the time. Emotions make you human. Once I learned to accept my emotions, I felt relieved.

 Don’t Be Afraid To Do What’s Best For You

 If you spend your whole life trying to make everyone around you happy, but fail to make sure that what you are doing is good for you as well, then nobody wins. Never let yourself be pressured into doing what others want, if it’s not best for you.

 Self-care Is Not A Joke

 You can’t get through life or even help others, if your gas tank is on empty. Take a bath, light a candle, read a book, watch a movie, or have a glass of wine. Do something for yourself every day, because in the end you only have one brain. Don’t let it get overwhelmed. Take a break. It will keep you rejuvenated.

 Stand Up For Yourself

 As someone who was always timid, I find this one hard. If someone is taking advantage of you, whether it’s your boss at work, or a friend who always expects you to drop everything for them, make sure to stand up for yourself. If the relationship isn’t mutually beneficial, then you run the risk of someone continually using you. People will walk all over you if you don’t set boundaries.

 Don’t Be Afraid To Cut Someone Off

 Family, friends, coworkers, it doesn’t matter. It could be someone you have known your whole life, or someone you just met. If they aren’t good for your mental health, or they make you feel uncomfortable, then it isn’t worth being around them. This one was hard for me, but once I realized that these people do more harm than good, I became aware of the need to cut them out of my life.

 There Is Nothing Wrong With Being By Yourself

 This was one of the hardest things for me to learn. I always enjoyed being around people and I let my self-esteem become dependent on their approval. But when I started to love myself and loved being with myself, I discovered that I didn’t need other people. I also became more conscious of the fact that I was putting my life on hold and not participating in things that I wanted to do because I feared I wouldn’t enjoy doing them alone. I am now working hard to do more things independently.

 

These are only some of the things that being in my twenties have taught me, and I am looking forward to learning many more. I enjoy growing and experiencing all that life has offered me. I know that I still have many years to learn from my failures and my accomplishments.

What has life taught you so far?